It Is Not An End
It Is Your New Beginning
I was so excited to be accepted into graduate school, I was going to fulfill my dream of attaining my Ph.D (I still plan to do this). I had spent a decent amount of money on applying to programs and taking necessary exams. (Side note research your graduate degree every program is different and requires different test while some require no test at all, just do your homework on the university and the program and calculate the cost you will need, furthermore make a firm note of how much you can/want spend on applications.) After a semester of submitting applications and getting a few no's when you finally get an acceptance letter you are excited!
So excited I utilized almost every penny I had to relocate myself and my two kids in the hopes that I would be safe and secure in graduate school and build my life once again. Things panned out to be a bit different for me, I did not have adequate childcare and sometimes not even an adequate vehicle. It was quite amazing how things were going haywire in what seemed to be a blink of an eye, yet I know there were signs that I did not pay attention to. I mentioned to myself many times "jeez Aubrey your energy is completely out of whack" there were just so many adverse things going on. All I could think to myself was "Oh my goodness I thought I was doing the right thing, everything WILL get better."
My first semester was in graduate school was so tumultuous that I in some ways self-destructed. I was so stressed about my kids and childcare and the demands of evening classes that I never had before. The stress of it all weighed on me to the point that I was not able to put my best foot forward and my grades showed it. Although I finished the semester, my GPA dropped and I lost my job. This changed everything. I tried to attend the following semester but I could not focus I had to find another job which made it virtually impossible for me to attend face-to-face classes. Thus I had to withdraw for the semester (which by the way landed me on probation 😏).
~"It is not always persisting which makes us strong, sometimes it is the ability to move on" -unknown
Yet, I was not ready to give up on the school. So I went back to what I knew, distance education. Although I was on probation for my Doctorate program I was still admitted into two other graduate programs closely related to my field. One acceptance was with my undergrad UHD, and the other with the same university my doctorate program was with! Take that face-to-face classes 😝
I do not believe in coincidences, for many of us we bring in the hurricanes before the flowers. As a single mom, there are moments when you feel a bit more adversity than others. You tend to come down on yourself because you want your kids to have stability, and when you feel their stability being shaken it is easy to feel moments of failure.
All in all, my biggest thing to anyone is to follow your heart truly. Go with what feels right! In my case I have gotten a firm lesson that "traditional" graduate school can be tedious for all involved yet for the singleton it is even more imperative to have support. So if you are that mom and you are ready to jump in the field of brick and mortar GO FOR IT! Just keep in mind your heart, pay attention to your emotions, have or develop a strong support system quickly! Or if school is not your thing that is OK, find your niche and embrace it!
As for me, I will continue on, online that is. If you want to continue your education do not count yourself out. Check with you local Jr. Colleges and universities many of them have online and hybrid programs to help people just like you and me finish our degrees. I have one more semester until I graduate from my [fully online] Master's program. There are many reputable accredited schools that have graduate and undergraduate programs online for the non-traditional student these distance learning classes are a way to finish our education when there otherwise would be no way.
-Aubrey Piece's 🌈
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